Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Beware the Almighty Ego!

Have you ever watched someone enter a room and saw his ego enter first?  You know what I mean!  That person that seems to lack social graces because, after all, it is all about him! 

Over and over again, I am asked about narcissism in society and why people lack manners.   There are many reasons why someone may be remarkably self-absorbed.   We'll leave that for another discussion.
What's important is that we do our best not to become so wrapped up in our own affairs that we cannot empathize with others.  As I pointed out in my last post, this is a lonely way to live.  It is a sad state of affairs when your ego is so large that you cannot listen to other people or understand their point of view, because you need to be right - at all times!

I heard Oprah Winfrey say something about how making someone feel invisible is the worst thing you could do to a person.  I have to agree with her.  Think about how painful it can be when you feel insignificant to someone, especially if it is someone you care about.  Who are you to treat another human being in that way?   I assure you that the energy you expend being angry and negative toward others can be channeled into much better directions.  I challenge you to eliminate thoughts of competition.  
If you find yourself being very judgmental toward others, please stop to consider why.  How much energy do you waste feeling these little surges of anger and self-righteousness toward others?  Do you go so far as to spend time complaining to your friends about other people?  What are you gaining from doing this?  Chances are that, if you are being judgmental toward others, you are also judging yourself very harshly.  How might you change this behavior?

  • Start by learning to catch your thoughts as they turn toward criticisms of others.
  • Next, train yourself to find something positive about the other person.  Are they dressed nicely?  Do they have creative ideas?
  • Finally, think about how you judge yourself.  What words do you use to describe yourself?  Do you put yourself down and get in your own way?
I'd love to hear your input!  Please post a comment below or contact me at 732-842-3515 or for a complimentary 30-minute Formulate Your Goals! Phone Session.  I am here to support you!

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